Life presents before us different cultural traits and traditions, different varieties of palatable dishes, numerous stunning mountain destinations, exotic locations, quaint romantic hill stations and all the wonderful marvels made by God on earth. Life gives us many opportunities to enable us take correct decision and enjoy life to the utmost. In this era, living a solo life is no longer a compulsion but a choice! In the past a man’s or a woman’s decision to stay single was considered to be a burden for the family, the grabbing eye-balls of the society and disgusting over-concerned comments would make solo-living quite a difficult process. But, things have changed now. The society has started accepting the singleton situation with ease and normalcy.
Singletons are happy people. They get entrenched in their work-life balance. They are more organized individuals in comparison to the ones married in the same age group. People who have chosen solo-living are more health conscious, more concerned about their personal care and satisfaction from life. Singletons are of the tougher kind. They socialize well in their circles. They are well aware of the fact that they do need support in hard and tricky times of life. There are some who share their feelings of loneliness. This is a very healthy attitude. Some experience agony and left out during their leisure time. Yet others get depressed with the same kind of mundane routine of their life. Why does this happen?
Singletons are emotionally high maintenance people. They are able to get control of their ego-state but may be very emotional or sensitive regarding relationships. At times they may feel used by their relatives, may get depressed at trifle things which should not have mattered much to them. Why at all such things happen?
Probably it is because:
1. They fail to realize that they are exquisitely crafted for a more enriching life.
2. Their loyal actions towards their dear ones did not get an appropriate response.
3. They are unable to visualize and enjoy God’s love and blessings in small things of life.
4. They are unable to adjust with relatives, people or neighbours. They are choosy regarding their circles or people and land up in isolation.
5. They are workholics and money is their priority. Peace takes a back-seat in their life.
6. They get accustomed to solo living and a person’s presence may no longer be the source of happiness but it is more of a kind of interference in their life.
7. They are conscious about their future and become stingy inadvertently, thus forgetting to share and live.
8. Some may lack the visibility to get all round success in life.
How to add a little Zing to life
How to add a little zing to life is not only a question but it is the solution to get out of loneliness. People leading a solo life are commonly workaholics. There no pre-planned time for merry-making and fun. The following are a few tips to add a little zing to your life:
1. Often people forget that small things add happiness into their life. Always remember to note little things in life. They have the potential to bring a smile to your face. And others too when you share those little things.
2. For many, happiness means personal success in work-life. For others, the definition of happiness may be different. It may be gratification, a sense of contentment or enjoyment of good health condition.
3. Happiness also lies in watching a small bud become a flower in your garden hybrid mango tree. Some may feel delighted to get a call from a dearly loved friend.
4. A good sleep is a source of happiness for one who is weary and burdened with responsibilities.
5. Shopping, a good hair-cut, a walk with a friends or just a morning stroll in the garden may be a source of immense happiness.
Why spirituality is a much desired commodity in life?
Spirituality or inner purification has its own place in everyone’s life. Many people choose solo life as they have much affinity to liberty. They may need liberty from many old rituals, traits, traditions and beliefs. Still many are seen to battle between the same. They seem to have attained no relief. They get occasional hammering from the life events even though they chose a different lifestyle. Some find it quite disturbing while others either learn to give a deaf ear or get reactive and hypertensive! To get control over all these, meditation and self purification of thoughts, deeds and action provides inner strength to an individual. Few ways to enhance self purity are as follows:
a. An individual should try to give quality space to him/herself. This should be a time when one is at a good conscious state of mind free from fatigue both physical and mental. This is the right time to read a Holy Book, offer prayers or just close one’s eye and meditate on God. This phenomenon not only increases the concentrating power but frees the mind from all worldly hopes and desires. When this is done for a few minutes in a regular way it gives peace to the soul and happiness to the mind. It helps to uplift a person’s individuality. God is the name of peace, love, happiness, endurance, patience, perseverance and freedom. God promises to give freedom from all pains, anxiety, unforeseen fears, future deliriums and all. Often we tend to seek more space for ourselves and deny other space to live and be happy. Giving space to others is also necessary.
b. Keeping oneself physically clean and hygienic is a part of self-purification. A strict routine should be observed to stay clean, fit and hygienic. A well groomed person fit in body and mind is the one who can realize and understand the worth of spirituality and its levels, the scale of which varies from individual to individual. A person who is clean externally is the one who will love to get purified internally too. Internal purification may be time taking, but the results are appreciable. It gives absolute freedom from age, looks and sexuality.
c. As a person proceeds towards inner purification of self he/she transforms into a more balanced and matured individual. He/she learns to handle the ego state of mind. One’s emotional sensitiveness, sense of fear, insecurity, anger, despair, frustrations or loneliness are no longer difficult issues to be taken care of. Introspection of self changes one’s outlook. It helps to start visualizing the world from a deeper-self. The world from this point looks more beautiful and people therein wonderfully marvelous.
d. While leading a solo life, working in the commercial world should be highly adored. Undoubtedly, it is a ruthless world from many angles. But the boon it gives to us cannot be denied. We grow stronger each day. It also keeps us sustained financially. We spend so much time on planning a proper diet or doing workouts in a gymnasium. Still life gets restless. Giving a little time to God, meditating or reading a Holy Book or books written by good authors will add inner happiness into our life that we cannot even dream of. Life is beautiful. Enjoy it in its serenity.
(Singleton - a person who is neither married nor is in a long term relationship)
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